Do you really need to believe in yourself?

Whenever you say I believe in myself, have you ever observed the situation? Is it a doubtful situation? a doubt on your own capabilities? You are indeed doubting yourself and so talking about believing. The reason being what we know we don’t need to believe that. The belief is required only when we don’t know something. For e.g. I believe that there are infinite universes, I believe that there is a/ there is no god, I believe I can do it etc. Believe is word behind which there is a confusion and doubt and so to make ourselves feel better we use the word I believe in myself. Just accept what you know and what you don’t know and then move forward to acquire the knowledge which you don’t know. Enforcing and chanting the words to yourself will do more damage than good. You may feel good for a short period but ultimately it would not be fruitful.

So next time, try this – when a need arises and you say I believe in myself, just observe the situation. Observe your heartbeat, your body temperature, your mind fog and your willingness to learn the skill which lead you to say the words. You will come to know yourself better.

Getting Over Difficult Times

Getting Over Difficult Times

The most important thing to understand about life is that no matter who you are or how much money you have, you are never going to be able to get away from the difficult times that come with life. There is no way you can live your life thinking that everything will always be easy and there will be no bumps on the road. This is the main reason you need to be careful not to allow yourself to be overwhelmed by these difficult times.


Understand that happiness requires sadness 

Imagine a world that allows you to feel happy 24/7 and all that happens in your life makes you feel good and safe? This sounds nice right? But the truth is that if you are always happy, you are going to end up feeling like happiness has lost its meaning. You should ever feel bad about being unhappy. This point may seem absurd but for a man who is not thirsty, water is useless, you can ask a thirsty man the value of water.

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Next Level of Brain Development

Next Level of Brain Development

Have you ever experienced that when you are free, you have less time and when you are busy, you have more time? This may seem illogical on paper but practically it is all together a different story. Whenever I do more work than I am supposed to do, I feel active and energetic. Brain is unlike the machinery in a factory; the more you use brain the better it gets. There is no depreciation, or amortization. Imagine if money would work like that, the more you spend money the more you have. What is money actually? A piece of paper to let you live the life you want or to give you the knowledge you want or to make you a better person? If you think more deeply, you already have an asset which is better than money, the brain.

The brain grows in the same way the muscle grows. Muscles need a shock to tear the tissues so that they can build itself better, bigger, and stronger than before. We hit the gym to give the shock to our body but fears giving shock to our brains. While it may seem that you are weak today, your brain is exhausted, you are overloaded with tasks and you can no longer persist, but it will help you to grow. When you are thinking about whether to do this or not, somebody has already done it.

So try this, pick up a task which is brain wrecking. Do it. Do it for the 20 hours which need not to be in continuation but when you do that work, put all your concentration in. You will no longer feel stressful after 20 hours and the reason being that your brain will develop a new level of tolerance reaching its next level. The next level of success. The next level of enlightenment.

Can You Control It

Can You Control It?

There is always a difficulty. Difficulty which is intrinsic in human mind. Difficulty in making choices. Difficulty in prioritizing. Sometimes we are met with a situation which demands a choice. If we choose to live by that choice then there is always a possibility that something which is more important would be at peril. So how do you tackle this? We all prioritize work but what method do you use? Most of us still spend time worrying about the tasks in the priority list because we tend to make mistakes in prioritizing. Say, such as, studying for the exams vs. worrying about the results of other exams; concentrating on your job vs. devoting time to your relationships. Both are equally important. Hopefully, there is a way out there to save you some mental suffering. Read More »

Your Inner Coach

Your Inner Coach

The other day I was reading an article in HBR written by Peter who introduced a concept of controlling your emotions. The concept is called “inner coach”. Many a times when we are in a particular situation, we think about emotions pertaining to that particular circumstance. Like if we fail in exam or a project or anything then our mind says that we are an idiot and a failure. It is very easy to dismiss it by saying ” …well, he is a jerk” to a person but when the receiving end is us then it becomes a bit more difficult. There is also a good voice which gets activated when we feel optimistic. The voice to motivate us, the voice to tell us that everything would be OK. The point is what to hear and what to not. Read More »

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